Life on the Fringe
Interview With Camille (Part 3)
My third interview (of several this month) with Camille D’Artigo. Her fifth book is coming up. HAUNTED MOON releases 1.29.13
1: What are the benefits and drawbacks of polyamorous marriages?
A: First, being polyamorous does not mean being promiscuous. You don’t just sleep around with anybody who catches your eye. It means being in a defined relationship with more than one person. Even in a monogamous relationship, no one person can meet all of your needs—so unless you have no friends, everyone is poly on at least a friendship basis.
The benefits? Less pressure on everybody—if Smoky has a headache one night and I really want sex, then Trillian or Morio will be there for me, and we’ll all watch over Smoky. Now, none of my husbands are bisexual, so if I don’t feel like sex…well…that can be sticky but they know how to please themselves and so far, nobody has felt shortchanged, so to speak. We are a unit, even though the guys bicker and spar, they really have developed a respect and concern for each other and they’ll be right there to make sure things are okay if one of them is in trouble. So mutual support is a big plus.
Jealousies do arise but after the mess with Hyto, there’s a lot less tendency to let them become issues. We have weekly meetings to discuss anything that has come up between us and we try to make certain we do so in a neutral place—often we’ll go to a restaurant.
And I share something special with each of them, individually. Smoky and I head out to the woods and I ride on his back while he’s in dragon form. Trillian goes clubbing with me and we talk…just downright talk…more than the others. I love to dance and the others get fairly bored with it. And Morio and I share our magic. So with each of my men, I have a unique bond.
The cons? Jealousies can get out of hand if you let them. Dealing with three massive egos isn’t always easy for me. And if two of them are having a grumpy day, chances are, we all will—especially because of the Soul Binding we went through.
2: If you could change one thing about your life what would it be?
A: My father and I wouldn’t have had the fall out we did. But there’s no changing it, there’s no changing anything, so it’s useless to regret paths not taken.
3: Where do you shop for your wardrobe?
A: I frequent boutiques and small shops. Seattle’s great for finding unexpected treasure troves of cool clothes and shoes!
4: With your mixed blood and the bloods of your husbands and at one point in the storyline it being stated that the mixed blood causes difficulties in carrying children. How would you work out having children with all your husbands if that is what you desire?
A: ~Grins~ So many questions about kids. As I’ve said in the past two interviews, I’m so not interested but if we later on decide to do this…well…we’ll try to figure out a way. I’ll never put my health at risk though, just to have a child.
5: You are such a fashion savvy woman…where is your favorite place to shop?
A: Sephora. ~Laughing~ Makeup is a goddess-send!
6: What is your secret comfort?
A: Caffeine. A good book and a hot bath filled with bubbles. Spending an hour just toying with my makeup. Puttering in the garden. Sitting by the lake, just listening to the birds. Music so loud that it shuts my mind up.
7: What would be your one wish for your sisters?
A: That they live long, happy lives. That they come through this war without too many scars, both emotional and physical.
8: I would ask about your magic: which makes you feel stronger, moon magic or death? How does the magic affect your relationship with your men? Next how are you coming along after what Smoky’s dad did to you? How is it affecting you still? Is it limiting your abilities to love in your life?
A: Death magic makes me feel stronger even though moon magic is more comfortable for me. The magic is part of who I am—they knew that to begin with, so it is just part of what me—and they know and accept it. As far as the aftereffects from Hyto’s attack…it’s hard to verbalize. I’m okay, overall. It helped to see him fry and though part of me wanted to torture him, I decided a clean, quick kill was best for my conscience. I’m glad he’s dead, though, and I’ll never, ever regret choosing for him to die. It does not limit my ability to love, but it does limit my ability to trust even more. And it’s forced me to realize how much I want to be stronger on a physical level, and to take on the challenge of putting on some muscle. I’m happy at my weight and with my curves, but I want to pack a punch behind it.